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XBiz Awards & Upcoming Conferences

Remember when I shot that incredible porn with Pink and White Productions called “Occupied” about a protestor from the Occupy movement who has a romantic interlude with a cop? Well, it won 2014 Feminist Release Of The Year from the XBiz Awards! What a way to start the year! As my usual pedantic self, I rambled on about why I love Crash Pad and why this win is important within the context of porn production over at their website. You can tell it was in post-production for awhile just from the length of my hair which is now mucchhh longer. It was obviously worth the wait!


This film was an incredible shoot, one of my all time best performances, and a marker of incredible growth for me. I got take on some material that was close to my heart and play a character who was close to me and far, far, far from the image of a glamorous porn star. It was fantastic! When I was making this film, I was excited to do something hardcore that played off the tensions I was seeing and experiencing in Oakland. I wasn’t thinking about feminism so much as I was thinking very broadly about power and my relationship to it. It was great to take on a project where women occupying the traditionally masculine roles of protestor and cop weren’t treated as the punchline or end game. In your standard ‘lesbian’ fare, we wouldn’t be costumed anywhere near authentically. Usually those scenes are about ‘how cute she looks when she’s pretending to be in a position of that much power” which has its own appeal, trust, but gets old when that’s all you’re ever allowed to perform or see. There’s a lot of rich material to play from, we don’t have to get trapped in the same angle.

All my love to the Pink&White crew for always putting together a welcoming set, mad technical skills, a hot vibe, and great working conditions. I also want to encourage you to check out what Pink and White is up to because they’re going to keep getting bigger and better. They’re making waves in the world. I also want to say that I’m honored to have been in this category with other great directors and producers who are also doing cool things in porn. XOXOXO!


Shibari Dojo Vienna

Shibari Dojo Vienna


I’ve also been accepted as a speaker for the 2014 Feminist Porn Conference in Toronto, April 5-6. I’ll be talking about the advent of moving picture pornography. We think of feminist-indie-queer porn as being an alternative to mainstream porn, but how did those norms become established and just how alternative is alternative porn anyway? This year I didn’t submit any projects for the awards because 2013 was the year I felt properly christened into my name “Mayhem.” I’m happy to come in and be the nerd I am and share some of the smut from great-grandma and grandpa’s attic.

You can also come see me at Theorizing The Web 2014 in Brooklyn, April 25-26. This conference is pay-what-you-can so please come out to see some fantastic presentations out in Brooklyn. I’m really happy to be on the lineup because this conference went out of its way to solicit presentations from sex workers and is being accessible in every way it can. It’s going to be hosted in a Brooklyn warehouse and I am always SO THRILLED when I get to speak in non-conventional environments.


I’m interested in other speaking opportunities so please let me know if I should send an abstract to YOUR favorite conference. Let people know you want to see MAYHEM on the stage. I love challenging topics and I want to come to your local anarchist info shop, sex toy boutique, avante garde porn screening, death salon, sci fi panel, or dungeon discussion. If you get enough people together in your living room and feed me vegan eats, I’ll even come talk in your living room. True fact.

Shibari Dojo Vienna

Shibari Dojo Vienna



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Link Love


Bawdy Storytelling Photos by Neuoptik Photography

Masters of psychedelic art: My household growing up had a lot of Peter Max and I always enjoyed the bright tertiary colors and flowing lines. Not surprisingly, art that appeals to someone tripping also appeals to kids. Although a lot of folks might want to decry this genre because of its illicit associations there is a tremendous amount of skill and theory applied here. It’s worthy of study and appreciation in all states of consciousness. It’s also had a massive impact on popular art since its inception.


No fap isn’t a challenge, it’s a way of life.” As a logical counterpoint to Reddit’s constant stream of ‘fap material’ is a forum of young men dedicating their time and energy to not fapping as a new take on the old idea of preserving masculinity by abstaining from masturbation.


100% Men is a Tumblr dedicated to depicting companies and corporatations whose leadership is 100% male.


The Mysterious Island Of The Dolls in Mexico is creepy and compelling to look at.


Men should read Hegel before dating is a short video from the coming documentary “Monogamy and its Discontents.”


High school student calls out Pam Stenzel for slut shaming. Her school principal is a total tool with bad ideas on educating teens who engages shaming behavior of his own. Wellesley welcomes their incoming student after the debacle over Twitter. I wrote about Pam Stenzel in 2009 after bearing a grudge from having to watch her horrible “Sex Has a Pricetag” videos in junior high and high school. Pam Stenzel is a lying liar who lies to teens about sex. She makes students feel bad about themselves and their sexuality. May she be known for what she is. I wrote about Stenzel in 2009.


Salvador Dali’s wife Gala was known as the “demon pride” and is said to have outdone him with her own set of sexual perversities, megalomania, and lust for cash.


The Revolution Will Not Be Funded is an anthology that questions the impact of the non-profit industrial complex on enacting social change. I think it’s crucial to consider this and I’ve certainly had my own clashes of this nature.


The Mating Octopus in photos. For all you cephalopod lovers out there.

ImageTriptychs by Mattie Brice explores labels and labeling through the lens of gaming and other personal identifiers. As always, she’s brilliant voice in the gaming community and radical bloggers at large.



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Tracy Clark Flory, Ned, and YOURS TRULY will be the judges for the AIR SEX REGIONAL happening in San Francisco tonight. As a professional pervert and pornographer, I am super excited to watch the action and decide who gets a GOLDEN BUTTPLUG or a SILVER DILDO.

So come one, come all and pick a song and start humping the air!

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Feminist Porn Awards 2012

The 2012 Feminist Porn Awards are just kicking off in Toronto, and as a new startup we are very proud to have two nominations in the mix less than a year from our launch. The Feminist Porn Awards, run by the awesome sexy ping center Good For Her, are the premier showcase for alternative, queer, progressive work in the adult industry. Since they began in 2006, the awards have featured the work of many of our role models including Shine Louise HoustonJiz LeeTina Horn, Courtney Trouble, and Tristan Taormino. We are honored to be acknowledged alongside these awesome folks and many others, and we were counting on the publicity to promote some really hot new content we’ve been working (and screwing) hard to produce.

Imagine my surprise this bright and sexy morning when I woke up to this rather unsettling email from Verotel, the credit card processor for Meet The Mayhems. The email informs me that our account is now subject to a €500 fee, which they assume we cannot afford, so they have been kind enough to terminate our account for us. You can read my rant about this here if you’re interested. To have our credit card processing yanked without warning only a few days before the FPA award ceremony is a serious and unexpected challenge.

Financial douchebaggery aside, the bottom line is that we can’t take your money for a few days. Does that mean that we’re going to deny you the incredible sexiness you’ve come to expect from us? Hell no! You awesome perverts mean more to us than that. It’s time for a whole long weekend of FREE PORNO! 

Running our own small, homemade independent porn site together has been a challenging but rewarding experience. Over the past year the two of us have built our own small business completely from scratch. We make up for having next to no investment capital by pouring our own time and skills into the project. The result is a true DIY porn site where everything from web development to editing to accounting, shooting, legal issues, photography, and marketing is done in our little Oakland apartment by the Mayhems ourselves.

Naturally there has been quite a steep learning curve in many of these professional skills, but we started small and have learned by doing. We ask our customers for only $8 per month, significantly below the industry standard price, with the caveat that a bad flu or a business trip might interrupt our schedule of updates. The quality of our product has grown steadily over the past year, and our membership has been slowly growing with it. We are now poised to launch innovative new sections of our website including homemade adult product sales and written erotica, and we have agreements with other independent adult performers and small studios who want to launch their own small porn sites using our software architecture. We are working not only to create an independent income stream for ourselves, but also to create a viable business model for all of the little guys in porn who want the tools to profit from their work without sacrificing their creative and entrepreneurial autonomy.

We’re excited to share some of the fruits of our labor with you free, for a limited time. Enjoy, and stay tuned for tons of new footing in the coming weeks, including performances by Wolf Hudson, James Darling, Ruby Reaper, Denali Winter, and Bianca Stone!

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Upcoming Events!

  • The Feminist Porn Awards 2012 are upon us! Both Ned and I are so honored to have received nominations for our website, MeetTheMayhems.Com as well as for our first feature length flick, Tresspass. Grab tickets to see the awards or cheer us on by checking out the livestream by Girlzporn.

The Feminist Porn Awards takes place April 20th at 9 pm at the Berkeley Church at 315 Queen Street East, Toronto, Canada. Live streaming will commence at 8 pm E.S.T (6 pm P.S.T), kicking off with live interviews with talent in attendance and their spectacular red carpet entrances.

What’s it like to be a queer or kinky atheist? Alt-sex communities might favor calling the goddess or tantric rituals instead of a church revival, but the belief that a spiritual life makes you a better person is as common as in Middle America. The reality is that for nonbelievers, dungeons and Pride Parades can be as unwelcoming as the neighborhoods they grew up in.

Godless perverts of all stripes are encouraged to join us at the Center for Sex and Culture on Thursday, April 26 to explore the role of atheists, agnostics, and skeptics in alternative sexuality. The panel features Greta Christina, Charlie Glickman, Chris Hall, and Maggie Mayhem speaking about how to be a good perv without God(dess), community attitudes that privilege religious and spiritual beliefs, how science can be ecstatic, what atheists call out when they come, and much more.

$10-20 sliding scale
The Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission Street between 9th and 10th Streets

  • Farmhouse Conference 2 is happening in Hollywood, CA on May 5 and I am thrilled to have joined the lineup. No slides, no projector. Just awesome people telling incredible stories. The theme this year is “Mapping” and the lineup is becoming more and more awesome by the day. My talk will be called Navigating The Gender Landscape. 



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EVENTS! Bawdy Storytelling & Threshold at Mission Control

I am a last minute addition to the Bawdy Storytelling event happening TONIGHT, Thursday December 15 at the Uptown in Oakland, CA. The theme is WINNING! and the story lineup looks fantastic.

Thursday, December 15th (Special Holiday date)
Doors at 7, Stories at 8
$10 at the door

The Uptown NightClub
1928 Telegraph Avenue
Oakland, CA

Stories by:

Sarah Dopp is obsessed with the Internet, microphones, the overlapping edges of gender, and the kinds of adventures that make for a really good story. She accidentally lived in China, she drives to the Grand Canyon on a whim, and she recently learned how to make ice cream. Sarah likes to build communities, and she’s created thriving ones around genderqueerness, writing, and performance — both on the Internet and right here in San Francisco. She’s been published in Coming and Crying and Gender Outlaws: TNG, and has a history of co-hosting of San Francisco’s Queer Open Mic. But lately, she’s just been kinda normal.

Jonathan Moore-Northrop spent his first thirty years telling blue stories in a red state. In 2008, he relocated from Phoenix to San Francisco in search of like-minded leftist homosexual perverts. In collaboration with artist Chris Kelsey, Jonathan is the creator of the webcomic, which is relaunching in January.

If Kitty Stryker was a My Little Pony, her cutie mark would be a pen crossed with a sword. She is a sex worker who writes about filth and politics for Good Vibrations, Filament, and Artwank, among other publications. In her copious free time, she’s head of the queer Ladies High Tea and Pornography Society, founder of Kinky Salon London, and a devotee of enforced feminism. Kitty blogs about her professional and personal experiences at

Mandy Hixson is a San Francisco native who started attending Burning Man at 17. Most recently she has been traveling around the world and occasionally performing – burlesque in Istanbul, fire dancing in Bangalore and and inadvertently a sex show in New York. She is now very happy to be back at home in the city of queers and pervs.

Blythe Baldwin is a writer, poet, & visual artist. As an outspoken & unapologetic queer she spreads a sex positive outlook through the arts. She has featured at The San Francisco Queer Open Mic & performs regularly in the Bay Area. She spends her nights writing & drawing comics.

Maggie Mayhem is a writer, performer, and sex hacker who lives an underground Oakland lair that is a hub of sex positive technology, art, and activism she shares with her partner Ned Mayhem. You can find Maggie at her home on the web, MissMaggieMayhem.Com or on Twitter.


Come out to my fabulous play party at Mission Control in San Francisco FRIDAY, Dec 16th from 9PM-3AM. We have tons of fungeon play space, a hot theme about uniforms and anti-uniforms, sexy decor to get you in the mood, great people to meet, and some sizzling entertainment. Come out and rock your socks and enjoy comedy by MORGAN at 9PM and the band BOBBY JOE EBOLA at midnight.

I can’t wait to see EVERYONE there! If shiny boots get you salivating and you think that uniforms were made to be fucked in, make it a point to come out to THRESHOLD.

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The Road To Shameless

Maggie’s Note: I’m reposting this amazing event at the Center For Sex and Culture TOMORROW NIGHT, 11-15-11 in San Francisco. If you’re in the area, go check it out and support sexual assault survival storytelling.
(This announcement contains references to sexual assault and recovery.)
Dixie De La Tour, Bawdy Storytelling and Stories 2 Stop Rape
present a one-night only performance by National Story Slam Champion Nancy Donoval:
A Survivor’s Tale of Sexual Assault and Healing

 Written and performed by Nancy Donoval
“[Nancy Donoval] has mastered the art of telling stories that are
funny and heart-wrenching at the same time.”
- Chicago Reader, Critic’s Choice
Advance tickets at:
7:00 – Doors Open
7:30 – Show Starts
Q&A follows the performance.
The Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission Street, San Francisco
“Nancy’s story is as much for men as women.
Beautiful, difficult, heartfelt stories — this show is a gift.”
- Kevin Kling – Playwright, NPR Commentator, Author of The Dog Says How
Flat Rate Tickets:
$12 advance / $15 at the door

Sliding Scale Tickets
Pay What You Can Afford $5 – $25 (advance and at the door)
No one turned away for lack of funds.

Listen to Nancy’s story slam-winning excerpt of
The Road to Shameless on Chicago Public Radio at:

“An experience of exhilarating liberation! There are so many
people in my life that I want to hear this story.”
- Elizabeth O’Sullivan, audience member
Tickets at:
Whether survivor, friend or family many of us struggle with how to talk openly about sexual violence. The issue can become even thornier when survivor and assailant know each other. Nancy Donoval was a 19-year-old freshmen theater major when she went out for a night of fun and drinking and was sexually assaulted by a friend.  She knew what had been done to her was awful, but she didn’t know to call it rape. Like a lot of people, she thought sexual assault meant a stranger in a dark alley, not someone you trust in a place you thought was safe.
Today, Nancy is a critically acclaimed performing artist specializing in performance memoir that finds humor in the hard stuff of life such as grief and loss, body image, disability and sexual violence.  Nancy won the 2010 National Story Slam Championship with an excerpt from The Road to Shameless, her one-woman show that turns the experience of being a sexual assault survivor into powerful, transformative public art.  This witty, compassionate tale speaks the unspeakable with humor and grace making what might seem too difficult not only bearable but, in the words of one audience member, “an experience of exhilarating liberation.”
“Like the best storytellers, [Nancy Donoval] transforms the events in the telling and
ultimately arrives at a deeply meaningful hope.  [Told] with self-deprecating
wit and quirky insight…profoundly moving.”
- William Randall Beard
Minneapolis Star Tribune
More than an account of a sexual assault, The Road to Shameless puts rape in the context of Nancy’s life as a daughter, sister, girlfriend, theater artist, and budding activist. Using her skills as a storyteller, she gently invites us into key moments in her journey of survival: wearing overalls to erase any sign of being a girl; acting in plays with her assailant after the assault; finally being given the word ‘rape’ for what was done to her by someone she was dating–while they were sitting on his bed and he was lobbying for sex; how friends and family reacted when she told them; and the long twisting path from denial and silence to recovery and healing and eventually to becoming an outspoken voice for change.
Artful and wise. This is pitch-perfect storytelling, witty as the
best stand-up comedy but with a brilliant structure that
delivers the audience to its dead-serious heart.
- Patricia Weaver Francisco
Author, Telling: A Memoir of Rape and Recovery
Last month, as part of her work as a sexual violence educator for college campuses (, Nancy took this show back to where it happened, meeting with and telling her story to current members at the fraternity house where her attacker had lived and the assault took place. It was a powerful experience for all involved and highlighted the need to tell and listen to difficult stories such as these if we are to change our culture to embrace both “Yes” and “No” without shame.

“I learned there was hope and humor and healing somewhere in the hell.”
- Kenzie K., Augsburg College
“Nancy tells a story filled with meaning and has somehow found
a way to use humor in a discussion about recovery from violence.
Her words are powerful, revealing and ultimately healing.”
- Roberta Gibbons, Asst. Professor
Violence Prevention and Intervention, Metropolitan State University
For more info on Nancy and her programs:

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The Politics Of Protest

I went to my first protest naively and unaware of my privilege. Without having ever seen or faced police brutality, I assumed that the law enforcement response to a bunch of college students camping/occupying the base of my campus in 2005 would be uninjured. Maybe they might be tickets or face some kind of campus sanction for breaking the rules but I never expected what would come when the chancellor sent in the raid.

You won’t see me in that video: the sight of the riot vans lining the streets near the university kept me far enough away but I was there on the scene. I remember what happened. Some of the people in that video were my friends and classmates. I had been teaching classes on HIV and BDSM in the camp during the day and I helped their cooking time organize their logistics for making meals.

The story of our chancellor is a sad one. Any given moment of social explosion has generally been in the works. Denice Denton was new to being a chancellor and all of the politics therein. She was also working within a system with more corruption than she may have realized. The regents of the University of California have been making bad decisions and taking home big bonuses for their efforts as school resources diminish and cost of education goes up. On top of that, there were the protests. Some I agreed with and many I did not. I was horrified to open my student newspaper to find a full page sketch of her face and horrible commentary about her as a “bull dyke.” I was pissed that her body type and sexuality were attacked by peers. It also made me wonder how safe it was to be queer in my parts.

It was a situation that was going to blow up and it did more than anyone could imagine. I couldn’t even anticipate the full extent of force used by the police and I was shocked when the chancellor killed herself in San Francisco about a year later. The whole thing can only be described as a “wretched affair” and yet I cannot ignore the greed and the profit off in the wings and the shadows of the situation that utterly fueled it all.


Denice Denton was new to the job in a contentious time. She didn’t have the resources or the support to do what needed to be done. I wonder if she was offered guidance in protest management or if she ignored it. She made a fatal mistake that I saw in Oakland last night. She decided to recruit law enforcement support from many other major surrounding cities. They were more than enough cops and riot squads for the small number of protesters doing nothing more than sitting on a patch of grass. It would have fizzled out with monitoring but in went the big guns and the destruction ensued.

Jean Quan is still new to mayorship and it was a very, very, very bad idea for her to have coordinated the eviction of the Occupy Protesters as she did and to rely on perhaps up to 10 different police agencies to fire tear gas, rubber bullets, and bean bag bullets into the crowd. Regardless of your stance, it was a very bad strategy so far as containment and public safety is concerned. Throwing more police at the situation seems to be the easiest way to handle the situation but it rarely is. Another downside of non-local law enforcement is that they don’t know the norms or the city as well. They don’t know the side streets, the danger zones, and the character of protests in the city.

At least with city police, you have individuals responding who know the city and care about what happens to it. They have to go police the streets the day after. Police from other cities are all going to go home somewhere else. They aren’t invested in the long term picture of the situation.

Last night in Oakland there was no looting and no vandalism. Given the scope of the tension, the multiple rounds of tear gas, the massive number and lines of police, the heavy equipment like sonic canons in public view, the flash bombs, shutting off the street lights before firing tear gas, and the total inability to negotiate it easily could have become a riot without activist organizers defusing the tension well.  Think for one moment how much of a commitment to non-violence someone has to have in order to stand their ground in the face of these obstacles. Without a doubt there were some water bottles and paint thrown because anger has to go somewhere.

Joshua Holland of AlterNet penned a great write up of the night with articulate criticisms about the response. One of the points he drives home is the cost of such enforcement. Just as Oakland was sending in hundreds of officers from many different cities to handle non-violent and non-armed protesters (it is key to remember that Tea Party protests have often involved participants arriving fully armed and loaded with many different guns and have not been treated in this way). The cost of this enforcement is an important thing to think about because someone has to pay that bill and the Oakland coffers are empty.IMAG0351

Oakland is broke. 14 out of 18 of our libraries were slated for full closure and the remaining 4 were offered a 12 hour a week schedule for being open. Schools are being shuttered one by one. There is visible poverty and urban decay in the city and property management corporations own entire blocks of residential streets after the foreclosures hit the city hard. Having this many cops come out to use that many resources in one night for something that did not post an active danger to the city is reckless and it will cost the residents far too much. We did not have the money to use that much force nor was it necessary.

The other reason I feel confident speaking to the overall incompetence of the situation was the fact that it occurred within a vacuum of leadership that is largely due to mayor and chief of police relations. It was a fundamental error to send in the police a week after the chief of police has resigned and to have done so while she was on the other side of the country. Good programs start with good leadership and when you look at what happened on the night of October 25, 2011 in context of this information the leadership failure is more than evident. The people of the city will get upset and it’s vital to be there in these situations to calm them. During the Oscar Grant protests in Oakland, Dellums (for all of his faults) held down a situation that was more heated and violent than the Occupy Oakland protest. At least he was there telling the people he understood and heard their anger.

I felt insulted by the response issued by Jean Quan for the morning raid that preceded the violence later on that night. Rats in Oscar Grant plaza? Those rats have always been there. If you want to go urban nature wildlife spotting visit ANY of Oakland’s parks and you will see some of the largest rats you’ve ever seen in your life. The rats in Oakland are like the potholes in the street, the broken signals, and buses that just never show up to your stop. Were there people urinating and defecating around the park? Yes, just the way you’ll spot the same on the rise throughout the city because homelessness, mental health, and addiction are problems that Oakland cannot afford to solve. These problems had less to do with the camp and more to do with the fact that Occupy Oakland was doing something about it.

They were feeding the homeless, providing basic care, and offering support by not alienating the humans impacted by these problems. Occupy Oakland was demonstrating that people can be fed, people can access health care, and that not human being should be a pariah because they are suffering from things so scary we don’t normally look them in the eye when confronted with them. They were showing how it could be done. Times are desperate in Oakland and outside of city hall they were shaming the politicians inside who haven’t ever considered the notion that there is more to life than the fucking system.

At the very least, you can’t expect Oaklanders to be afraid. Some people are more afraid that the situation is going to get worse than it is here than they could ever rationally be of tear gas and arrest.

Whether you agree with the Occupy Movement or not, the response to the protest in Oakland last night on October 25, 2011 was incompetent at best and malicious at worst. In fiscal terms, it was not worth the expense to the city to call in that many guns and to fire tear gas in so many rounds and with such frequency. In terms of leadership, it demonstrated that those in charge have exceptionally limited skill in sizing up a situation and making the scene safe for democracy and all sides. The law enforcement escalated the crowds and demonstrated a lack of care for the city and a thirst for a kind of control that has always been an illusion.

Tear gas is a chemical agent. It’s not good for anyone. Why fire it repeatedly into an entire downtown area where there are many non-protesters living, working, and engaging in recreation? Balance the situation: is it better for the residents of the city if some “stupid hippies” sit in a plaza or is it better for multiple city blocks to be inundated in a chemical agent? What are the odds that the “stupid hippies” are going to continue returning if fired up in the response to a heavy hand from the government? What is the end game here? What is the cost? In the context of the budget, is it worth the closure of city schools and libraries just to make certain that the hippies don’t sleep outside of city hall?

When something as large scale as the Oakland streets last night occurs, it is imperative to remember that is a confluence of factors. The chief of police is just over a week into his job and was likely in possession of a drive to “show who’s boss” and perhaps to demonstrate the strength of his force in a city of violence by being the first to shutter the movement in Oakland. The mayor of the city appears to be more than a little naive about how and why protests occur and what her role is when they are in action. Tear gas was not fired because a protester threw paint or a bottle, tear gas was fired because 500 police officers with tear gas showed up on the scene and forcibly removed a group of non-violent people from a location and into the streets at once.

Giving 500 police officers tear gas, rubber bullets, and bean bag bullets are inevitably going to be used because they are there. Giving a police officer these tools and a set of instructions to shutter the movement establishes this fact. You can’t give a group of people a bunch of nifty toys to play with and then suggest that the only reason they played with them was because they were provoked by others.  However, it takes some time to organize and mobilize this many people. This was planned. It did not occur in the spur of the moment. It was the hot front of greed colliding with the cold front of incompetence. It was a series of factors and a chain of events that could have been entirely avoided with better management. No one had to get hurt last night and people did.

Make sure to check out our videos and photos of the Occupy Oakland camp before and after the raids yesterday.


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Upcoming events!

My Bawdy Debut from January, 2011

In case you didn’t know, I can tell a pretty dirty story. Make sure you come out to see me with Bawdy Storytelling this Thursday, October 20 for sex FAIL! You don’t want to miss one of these tales of sexual trainwrecks and when you’re here you won’t be able to tear yourself away from watching. I’m excited to perform at The Uptown and hopefully I have some good performance karma from the last time I took the stage there in nothing but pasties, a thong, and some rope.

If you miss me on Thursday, come out to MASQUEROTICA on Sat, October 22 in San Francisco. On this night of thrills, chills, and excitement for adults only I will be reigning as the vampire queen in my village of sex and death. This is the first annual Masquerotica and we’re glad to have a new event to fill the gap at the Exotic Erotic managed to create over the years. Costumes are mandatory for all attendees and if you’re lacking we will have emergency stylists ready to help you be a part of the fun. The stages are full of all kinds of mind blowing entertainment. I can certainly promise that the Vampire Village will be one of dark delights indeed.

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Art of Restraint

I recently performed at the Femina Potens “Art of Restraint” in San Francisco. The lineup included: Madison Young, James Mogul, Five Star, Twisted Monk, Maxine Holloway, JP Robichaud, Dylan Ryan, Lilac Wine, and myself.

My goal with the piece was to transform the room from voyeurs into participants into captors and finally into competitors. I wore a chain secured around my waist with 5 open padlocks hanging from it. Then I asked for 5 volunteers to take a 5 foot length of chain and lock it around my waist at a padlock. I then handed them the keys to the padlocks which were frozen in ice and already wrapped in cord to be hung onto the chain. “My goal is to get those keys, melt them, open the padlocks, and escape from the circle. Don’t let me get to those keys. GO!”

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Once you’re a chick surrounded in chain, you’ve already got a heavy metal look going on so I decided to run with that. I put my hair up into a mohawk, painted it blue, wore a ton of metal on my body, put on electric blue eyeshadow and found knee high boots to match. I looked like a hooker out of Blade Runner (standard pleasure model). I did have a number of behind the scenes safety precautions including an emergency release that would not require bolt cutters but it was still super intense. Essentially I brought the moshpit experience into a performance art show at a sex party play space.

It was interesting to see how everything intensified the second that I was about to unlock a chain about 33 seconds into the clip. For me, that was the moment that the people holding the chain transformed from being participants and into some serious competitors. On one hand, I had set things up to handle far more brutality than I actually experienced but on the other hand I was genuinely taken by surprise at how rough it was. It did feel like being caught in a storm of metal. I was tossed into the air, thrown to the ground, and battered. The adrenaline from performance carried me through it all. I landed on my knees repeatedly and the chain would crash into my torso from all angles. For 10 minutes I had an out-of-this-world physical experience and I was entirely sober. Despite the chaotic look to everything, there was a method behind the madness. I was actually consciously reacting to every blow from the chain in order to reduce the trauma. There are better and worse ways to take a serious blow to the body. A great deal of what I was doing in the middle of that metal hurricane was making demands to my muscles that required an override of my instinct. The piece required me to let go of physical control while simultaneously maintaining meticulous mental control. Unlike more traditional SM scenes where the bottom, submissive, or slave can drift off and enjoy a sensual experience I had to stay fully alert and connected.

I managed to gain keys for 4 out of 5 padlocks but one evaded me. The ice cube slipped from my fingers and off into the crowd. I did manage to pull the woman with the final chain and the missing key down onto the ground into a hold but I still accepted a spanking for every link left unlocked. Although I am very, very bruised I am more than satisfied with how this performance worked. I don’t know if it’s masochism in the most traditional sense but I’ve always been drawn to intense physical experiences. I have jumped 40 foot waterfalls in the Dominican Republic for the same reasons that I have bottomed for heavy SM scenes.  It’s a quest for the edge of my physical limits and my own control. This performance was a test of both and I thoroughly enjoyed the experience.

My next performance will be for “The Dirty Palette” at the SF Citadel. It will be hosted by the lovely Nerine Mechanique. Guests will have an hour, 9pm-10pm, to create their own perverted (or not!) art image on either canvas, paper, or the body at The Dirty Palette. Numbers will be assigned to each piece and a judging panel will vote on the best of our very own art show- Prizes will include passes to citadel parties, and various goodies! There will be penetrative paintbrushes, human collage, perverted paint-by-number, and prizes for all kinds of art. Come and check it out!

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