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Bawdy Storytelling Photos by Neuoptik Photography

Masters of psychedelic art: My household growing up had a lot of Peter Max and I always enjoyed the bright tertiary colors and flowing lines. Not surprisingly, art that appeals to someone tripping also appeals to kids. Although a lot of folks might want to decry this genre because of its illicit associations there is a tremendous amount of skill and theory applied here. It’s worthy of study and appreciation in all states of consciousness. It’s also had a massive impact on popular art since its inception.


No fap isn’t a challenge, it’s a way of life.” As a logical counterpoint to Reddit’s constant stream of ‘fap material’ is a forum of young men dedicating their time and energy to not fapping as a new take on the old idea of preserving masculinity by abstaining from masturbation.


100% Men is a Tumblr dedicated to depicting companies and corporatations whose leadership is 100% male.


The Mysterious Island Of The Dolls in Mexico is creepy and compelling to look at.


Men should read Hegel before dating is a short video from the coming documentary “Monogamy and its Discontents.”


High school student calls out Pam Stenzel for slut shaming. Her school principal is a total tool with bad ideas on educating teens who engages shaming behavior of his own. Wellesley welcomes their incoming student after the debacle over Twitter. I wrote about Pam Stenzel in 2009 after bearing a grudge from having to watch her horrible “Sex Has a Pricetag” videos in junior high and high school. Pam Stenzel is a lying liar who lies to teens about sex. She makes students feel bad about themselves and their sexuality. May she be known for what she is. I wrote about Stenzel in 2009.


Salvador Dali’s wife Gala was known as the “demon pride” and is said to have outdone him with her own set of sexual perversities, megalomania, and lust for cash.


The Revolution Will Not Be Funded is an anthology that questions the impact of the non-profit industrial complex on enacting social change. I think it’s crucial to consider this and I’ve certainly had my own clashes of this nature.


The Mating Octopus in photos. For all you cephalopod lovers out there.

ImageTriptychs by Mattie Brice explores labels and labeling through the lens of gaming and other personal identifiers. As always, she’s brilliant voice in the gaming community and radical bloggers at large.



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Porn And Accessibility: Call For Transcribers

When Ned and I started Meet The Mayhems, we wanted to make a porn website that reflected our sexuality on our terms and was welcoming and accessible to our desired audience. We believe that accessibility is vital but with a two person team running the entire show from the back to the front we’re far from perfect. Accessibility is about a lot of different things all at once and there is no finite finish line of accessibility. It is a never ending process and we put in our work to check our own perspective/privilege and consider the needs of different people who might be on the hunt for the erotic content we enjoy making.

On a technical level, accessibility is about making sure that the website itself is viewable to people with a diverse array of operating systems, browsers, and internet connection speeds. Between the two of us, there’s still a lot of work to be accomplished on that front. Often times it is work that you may not see because your OS, browser, and connection makes everything 100% visible, clear, and relatively easy to navigate. That’s awesome! We also want to make sure that someone with different resources can also get there and to do so means staring at hundreds of lines of code to identify glitches and broaden our technical accessibility.

Keywords and vocabulary are another part of accessibility. Even if the video or photos are super sexy and hot to a given audience, the language associated with the content might be a major turn off to some folks. While we are fully aware that no matter what we do, the art and science of attraction means that we won’t ever be able to get everyone off sexually. We also want to keep our language in check to make sure that we aren’t using language abusive to experiences that are not our own. It’s a fine line to walk: we have to contend with the likes of the anti-porn legions who believe that depicting a naked and sexual woman is oppressive in and of itself and as well as legitimate criticisms about our own blind spots.

One area we want to put time and effort into it is closed captioning for anyone who would like to know what is being said but cannot hear it for whatever reason. Sometimes our sound sucks because we don’t have external microphones, sometimes having the sound on is a liability to your porn watching, and some folks hear sound differently or not at all. We are looking for volunteers to help transcribe our porn. We’re looking for just a few people to help us out on this front because we don’t have very much yet but we will be putting out lots of new content.

If you want to check out our porn and can lend a hand writing down the dialogue word for word, send us an email: We’ll set you up with a lifetime membership to the website in exchange for your hard work. For those who have a name they would like credited, please let us know. If you have your own website or blog we’ll help get you setup with an affiliate account as well if you’re interested. Thanks for your interest and pass on the good word!

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Upcoming events!

My Bawdy Debut from January, 2011

In case you didn’t know, I can tell a pretty dirty story. Make sure you come out to see me with Bawdy Storytelling this Thursday, October 20 for sex FAIL! You don’t want to miss one of these tales of sexual trainwrecks and when you’re here you won’t be able to tear yourself away from watching. I’m excited to perform at The Uptown and hopefully I have some good performance karma from the last time I took the stage there in nothing but pasties, a thong, and some rope.

If you miss me on Thursday, come out to MASQUEROTICA on Sat, October 22 in San Francisco. On this night of thrills, chills, and excitement for adults only I will be reigning as the vampire queen in my village of sex and death. This is the first annual Masquerotica and we’re glad to have a new event to fill the gap at the Exotic Erotic managed to create over the years. Costumes are mandatory for all attendees and if you’re lacking we will have emergency stylists ready to help you be a part of the fun. The stages are full of all kinds of mind blowing entertainment. I can certainly promise that the Vampire Village will be one of dark delights indeed.

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Friday Quickies

Hey sex workers! Furry Girl is launching a new project dedicated to sex worker rights and she is looking for short personal stories, advice on how to be a good ally, and tips for clients who want to be ethical customers. The deadline is coming up quickly (May 27) but don’t let that frighten you! The word count requirements range from 70-120 words and sex workers of all stripes are welcome to submit.

I’ll be hosting an ultra-nerdy workshop on the science of orgasms on Tues, May 24. I’m so excited to be bringing in the PSIgasm that my partner and I have been working on to help show people what their orgasms look like from a geekier point-of-view. I’m really excited to get the PSIgasm project off the ground and the best way I could think to do so would be to start teaching people more about what happens when they come. This workshop will be the first public demonstration of how the device works so I’ll be grabbing cocktails after the workshop and all attendees are welcome to come along and ask questions.

It’s the Rapture (again) and I’ll be attending the West Coast Rapture RAM alongside other heathens, skeptics, and free thinkers. The lineup looks great and I’m excited to see Greta Christina speak as well as everyone else on the line-up. I’m glad to stumble onto a local (and affordable) event. It’s been my wish to attend The Amaz!ing Meeting for several years now but I can never actually afford a ticket to get inside. If you liked my post about Penn Jillette, I would be much obliged if you could help me get out to see him speak at this event for skeptics and freethinkers. Seriously, I really want to go and I’ll love you forever/film a custom video set/pull a public prank of some variety/negotiate if you can help me get out to TAM in Vegas this summer.

At any rate, if you see me out at the conference come say HI! I like people, especially people at conferences for atheists and skeptics hosted during the rapture.

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Wicked Grounds

At Folsom St. Fair 2009, photo by Sleek Images

I’ve never really been a chain coffee store kind of a girl. I’ve been a lifelong supporter of independent businesses because of financial ethics (I like to keep my money within my local economy) and also because I favor the unique. There are plusses to have a consistent product, but more often than not I find it a little eerie to experience identical store layouts and interiors in different cities and even different states. Aside from being a slave to my drug of choice, caffeine, I often feel most at home in a coffee shop. I can mark entire periods of my life around coffee houses some of which I frequented so often you could probably have delivered my mail there and I would receive it sooner than if you sent it to my house.

Wicked Grounds is the place to get your caffeine fix with a side of smut and debauchery. The pervert in me loves the fact that it’s 18+, has erotic art on the walls, sexy books on its shelves, and naughty toys for sale in its boutique. No one will look twice if you’re sipping on a mocha while tied to a chair or having your slave or human pet drinking theirs from the dog bowls they offer. It’s also a great place to cruise for a partner without having to worry about whether your judgement is impaired from drinking. You can upload pictures of your most recent porn shoot on the wireless without worrying about what the person sitting behind you might think. If you’re having a bit of trouble getting your corset laced up, you can feel safe asking a stranger to help you out in that department. It’s also great to have people be understanding it takes you a little longer than normal in the bathroom because getting out of latex really can be a pain in the ass.
On a more hippie-dippie-lovey level, I’m going to use a phrase I tend to poke a bit of fun at: commUNITY. The owners of Wicked Grounds are an absolutely amazing couple that have put in countless hours of time volunteering at events and helping keep the community connected. It’s no surprise that when they put out a call for help to get things up and running at the cafe so that it could be fully operational by the Folsom St. Fair, people were at the doorstop ready to lend a hand. The media might make it look like BDSMers are scary violent people just looking to abuse others, but an afternoon at Wicked Grounds really demonstrates that it is much more like a family. It’s a safe space for people that aren’t always comfortable trying to do something as basic as get a cup of coffee in the morning because of their gender presentation, wacky hair, holding the hand of the person they love, or number on a scale. I’m also so much more connected to the community because of this new venue. Not everyone wants to meet at a bar and I, for one, just can’t really get into munches at Denny’s. I’ve found that acquaintances are becoming friendships because it’s a lot easier to pull up a chair over coffee than try to strike up conversation with someone while they’re coming down from subspace.
It isn’t just the warm atmosphere that makes Wicked Grounds great, it’s also the very quality of what they serve. Ritual Coffee is the stuff of connoisseurs and there is a good selection of proper teas rather shrink-wrapped boxes of Lipton. WG has also taken pains to be eco-friendly. I can’t help but notice that organic milk and cream is used and the landfill-bound garbage can doesn’t need to be used as often because the to-go cups, utensils, napkins, boxes, etc can all be composted. The baked goods include vegan and gluten-free options for those with dietary restrictions and preferences.
You might also spot one of your favorite Kink.Com stars from time-to-time. Peter Acworth stopped by (Behind Kink Video) and there have already been a few shoots inside the store.
Wicked Grounds is located at 289 8th St (at Folsom) in San Francisco, CA.

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Behind Kink- Again

Behind Kink (one of the free parts of Kink.Com) has put up a new video about The Girls of Casting Couch. I am absolutely flattered by Lochai’s kind words about me and our shoot. I’m really excited about my upcoming gigs at Kink.Com and you will definitely be seeing me up on the screen again. 

I really like the Casting Couch series. There is a lot of “amateur” content on the internet and most of that is faked. As technology advances rapidly before our eyes it is easy for anyone to snap photos or video and upload it to the internet and the porn industry knows that “first times” are really popular with an audience so they want to give it to you again and again with better lighting and quality. The CC shoots are sincere and Lochai is an incredible director. 
If you want in on a little secret, the best thing about being able to work for Kink is getting to interact with people that have been celebrities in my mind for a long time and that includes Lochai. When I was just getting into BDSM I did my research. I was all over the internet and the bookstore trying to get my hands on everything I could. I have so much respect and admiration for many of the people that are now a part of my life in one way or another and I still get butterflies when I am around them. For comparison, I went to a really small high school (there were about 55 girls in my graduating class) and in the middle of the quad were a set of steps that were designated as the “senior steps.” All of us underclasswomen had to wear the same boring uniforms, but the seniors not only had their own territory but they got to wear red sweaters with their uniform. Shooting for Kink.Com is like being invited to sit at the senior steps and try on a red sweater just to see how it fits. 

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Every ‘ho has her day

So I’ve been a little more absent from my blog than I would like. But I can explain! 

I was really super busy with all kinds of great projects you see. Aside from my writing over at Carnal Nation, my modeling over at, and my usual futzing about at work (little do my 200+ coworkers know that they are all going to be doing a condom demo in the near future) I was also spinning a few other plates around in the air as well. I like to keep busy, but I was getting so little sleep and running around everywhere that all of my plates came crashing down on me in the form of Shingles. 
Shingles are painful and not in the fun kind of way. They also make for a very cranky Ms. Mayhem when she is under strict orders to get a full night’s rest every night and take a ton of Valtrex, Prednisone, and other vitamins. I don’t know how to slow down very well because I like to keep busy. I have things to do! People to beat! I’m not a big player on the drug scene so I powered strictly by pure tenacity and caffeine. I’m on a social worker budget, ya’ know and with a recession going black coffee is about all I can afford. Apparently living on black coffee all day long with 2-3 hours of sleep is bad for you.
So I was sent into a forced vacation which I spent with my beloved Hitachi Magic Wand. Orgasms are good for the immune system and for emotional health and since I was bummed about having to cancel a performance and a shoot I decided to spend some proper time dancing with myself as Mr. Billy Idol would say. I’ve actually fallen asleep with my Hitachi on the pillow next to me. 
But the good news is that I’m on the mend and I’m sure I’ll be back to my busy ways quickly. I have some more shoots booked over at Kink.Com and a couple of other projects up my sleeve as well. I’ll just remember to add a multivitamin to my coffee and maybe add some cream and a bagel here and there. I can’t lay on my back forever, I have to spend a lot of time on my knees and in reverse cowgirl too. 

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