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The “Don’t Call It Hitachi” Magic Wand

The Hitachi Magic Wand

The Hitachi Magic Wand

The Hitachi Magic Wand is an institution unto itself. It was introduced to the massage market in the 1970s and it looks it. Hitachi never updated the style of the “Cadillac of Vibrators” because it never really needed to despite its giant microphone look. It did have its downsides. It’s common knowledge that much like vampires, no two Magic Wands die the same way. I’ve had friends whose vibrators put on sparking displays of fireworks at their death while others exploded in flames. They sounded like the neighbors could hear them. Yanking them out of the wall right before coming was a common annoyance. Those in the Magic Wand cult now that the pleasure that comes with this piece of machinery far outweighs the few frustrations. Vroom, vroom! It’s the go to in my sex box to drive me over the edge during sex and I’m in good company.

It’s been a well known  secret that Hitachi was secretly ashamed of their miracle body massager. It wasn’t really designed for sex, per se. Human bodies happen to have a lot in common in their fundamental structures. Those 5-6K RPM vibrations that could ease away muscle knots in the shoulders were also great for the tension down on the pelvic floor and the clitoris and the penis. High end mall and airport vibratory massager purveyor Brookstone gave up the ghost and started carrying the Lelo line along side their vibrators that are actually the size of Cadillacs but the manufacturing firm Hitachi finally caved into their squirming modesty and has stripped the Hitachi label off their famous “neck massager.”

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Bike Messengers And Vice

Photograph by Lewis Hine

 “Preston De Costa, fifteen year old messenger #3 for Bellevue Messenger Service. I ran across him and took photos while he was carrying notes back and forth between a prostitute in jail and a pimp in the Red Light district. He had read all the notes and knew all about the correspondence. He was a fine grained adolescent boy. Has been delivering message and drugs in the Red Light for six months and knows the ropes thoroughly. “A lot of these girls are my regular customers. I carry ‘em messages and get ‘em drinks, drugs, etc. Also go to the bank with money for them. If a fellow treats ‘em right, they’ll call him by number and give him all their work. I got a box full of photos I took of these girls – some of ‘em I took in their room.” Works until 11:00 P.M.” -Hine

Location: San Antonio, Texas. Date Created/Published: 1913 October. LOC original medium: 1 photographic print. 

Between 1908 and 1924 an investigative reporter and photographer named Lewis Hine documented the lives and conditions of children in the labor force and put his life’s work into creating reform. Today we have child labor laws to protect the most vulnerable among us in the United States because of the horror that these photographs instilled in Americans. Today, we send our labor abroad where we don’t have to contend with the daily evidence of labor exploitation.

There’s a lot to be said about this whole topic. While looking through these photographs, I did get to find out a lot about the early history of bike messengers. Today, the bicycle is a hip way to get around the Bay Area and messenger chic is all the rage. That isn’t to say that it’s entirely safe to get around San Francisco on a bike but the culture and industry thrives even now for quick local transport. Bikes still have the ability to get around town quicker than a car because of the traffic and parking problems and they’re still quite often the cheapest option in town.

What I didn’t know is just how engrained bike messengers were to the daily functioning of red light districts. Packages were sent to and from brothels, drugs were delivered across town with bike messengers who did not operate as government officials. The teenage bike messengers existed in between an image of the innocent youth (and with the overall conditions of child labor in factories and mines, which adolescent could be “innocent” in the ideal way we would like to think?) and the vice trade. Messengers c0uld be counted on to lead men to the hidden brothels and speakeasies.

Hines made it a point to ask his photographic subjects about their exposure to the “red light” district as he took their portraits. In fact, running errands for the red light and vice districts wound up being regarded as a more dire ill to children then many of the other hazards from factory or mine work. It was easier for the public to support shutting down a red light district by taking out the support staff that helped it function than to support children by taking them out of the mines and factories where they were killed and maimed regularly because that labor supported the country as a whole.

Looking through the archive, the youth seemed to have little negative to say about their clients in the vice district aside from the novelty of reading the scandalous notes passed between sex workers and their clients or pimps. Although it may be alarming to read about their transfer of drugs, formal drug prohibition was a hazy thing in this country. Plenty of good drugs we can only dream about were totally legal and well in the public circulation when these photos were snapped despite the fact that people knew the common recreational uses of everything.

It’s kind of a reminder that drug and sex trade prohibition is not a static issue in the country and that sometimes even vice is powered by bikes.


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  • Big Think blogger Marina Adshade asks, “Would you confess to visiting a sex worker?” and responds to her partner’s “confession” by saying, “If we ever break up, never, ever, give this information to a future girlfriend.  I said ‘if’ because it took me a while longer to realize that this was part of his history that I just couldn’t live with.”
  • An article about a new queer wave called  “Dawn of a New Gay” that ran in The Grid has taken considerable heat. The backlash has been immense: the Toronto queer community has been writing responses and comments left and right, one of the subjects denounced the article, the Torontoist did some finger shaking at the privilege of the “post-mo”, and The Grid has run another article defending themselves and their writer. Identity politics are a hot button issue and the biggest accusation against individuals who do not want to solely identify as gay men has been apathy.

    It’s fascinating to see these issues. As a 26 year old queer who doesn’t exactly get along well with the mainstream LGBT movement I looked at the controversy with interest especially as the pride flags go up on Market Street in San Francisco heralding the 2011 pride parade and celebration also known as Christmas in the Bay Area. One of the subjects stated, “We hated Toronto Pride for its negative stereotypes and its promotion of marginalization and hyper-sexed fools on floats.” Are the post-mos politically apathetic? Hardly. We’re a generation that has grown up with a radically different way of networking and a different context for intersectional issues. One of the subjects referenced the feminist movement and the growing number of dissidents who refuse to accept the party agenda. The only thing consistent about the generation gap is that there is one. Every generation comes into adulthood with a new context. One of the things I hear echoed among the so-called apathetic post-mos is a broader idea of progressivism and identity politics and fingers pointed at mainstream movement leaders for selling out to major corporate interests. The revolution will not be logo-ized.

  • In other news, some researchers believe that humans argue to win and rationality may have been developed for the feelings of triumph it can produce. This article from the New York Times was filed under the “arts” section so do take it with a grain of salt.
  • North Carolina is considering formal compensation for the victims of forced sterilization by the eugenics movement. The eugenics movement in the US was horrific and victims included rape victims, criminals, juvenile delinquents, people of color, gender variant people, suspected homosexuals, impoverished and working class individuals, people with mental illness or conditions like epilepsy, and just about anyone that the state didn’t like. The last eugenics program in the United States closed in 1979. Do the right thing, North Carolina. To the other 31 states involved in this horrific bullshit, it is time to step up and acknowledge the horrors you have wrought upon your people.
  • Yoga afficinado is very concerned that Choudhury Bikram’s brand of yoga is too sexy and not in keeping with Hindu spirituality or traditional yogic practices. I found this article deeply endearing. I agree with the points of the article but not the tone. Bikram himself is a very charismatic, eccentric, histrionic, hilarious, and narcissistic entertainer and athletic instructor. Yes, the notion that it is an especially good “sex moves” workout does prevail but that’s because it is a pretty damn good workout for the making of love. Bikram Yoga is more or less BDSM but with a different aesthetic and if you do it a lot, you’re going to develop some muscle tone, extend your flexibility, and sharpen your skills of breathing through physical pain and stress and getting over to the fuzzy rush where your brain starts producing pleasure hormones. The article makes a major error in its assumption that something erotic cannot be spiritual and that paying for a spiritual experience somehow cheapens or diminishes the core “spiritualness” of it. Bikram himself is an honorary dominatrix in my book for his ability to commercially cultivate intense erotic physical experiences.

    Maybe it was the naivete of this article that I loved the most. Bikram conferences hosted in hotels might be full of libidinal energy but so was the international conference on microbiology I once attended. It’s all about propinquity; we tend to be attracted to the people around us and if you isolate a group of adults in a hotel where they form a temporary micro-culture with people they might never see again, fucking will occur. We’ll just call it the Mayhem Principle of Inevitable Hookups. Whether you’ve converged with other adults to wear tiny clothes and get sweaty for hours in brutal physical poses or coming together to stare at slides of bacteria or viruses, people will go upstairs to their hotel rooms and bang.

    Here’s what I got out of this article and it comes in the form of million dollar advice all for free: if you possess a strong background and training in yoga and you also possess a strong background and training in Shibari start hosting suspension bondage yoga classes now.

  •  Estranged Sex is a series of sexual photos that ask questions about sexual intimacy. There is a good chance that some of these photos could be triggering or uncomfortable to look at for some folks.

Condom flash mob


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Interview with the authors of the Ethical Slut

Me with Zille Defeu being close taken by Sleek Images

As you may have figured out by now, Zille Defeu and I are close and love any chance to get together and make trouble. Back at IMSL, we took notes, snapped photos, and even interviewed Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton on the new edition of their book (grab your copy here). 

Me with Lochai taken by Sleek Images
But the best thing of all was to be able to do an interview with the fabulous authors themselves. For those of you who haven’t read The Ethical Slut well, go grab the new edition pronto. Many of us refer to it as the bible because it brought out the ideas of a poly lifestyle in a positive and constructive manner. So without further ado, please watch the interview.
As a note, I spent the day channeling my favorite journalist Dr. Hunter S. Thompson. That explains the hats, glasses, and cigarette holder. Please enjoy! Also, leave lots of positive feedback there. Some people don’t like people using YouTube to talk about real sexual issues. I promise that the content features no nudity and no real profanity. It’s just four women talking about a book. 

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Back in Action

This photo by Naked Comix (c)2009

So in my absence I:

*Won the Miss Bondage A Go Go competition. This brings me up to 2 current titles at my favorite SF hotspot. I heart you guys too!

Photo by the Baggaratzi (c) 2009
With fellow contestants and judges

Photo by the Baggaratzi (c) 2009
With Dan of the Two Knotty Boys

*I did some shoots at the world-famous with the fabulous Sabrina Fox (Wired Pussy) and Lochai (Everything Butt). Keep your eyes open on the site for my updates. You may see them before me!

*Moved into a new pad complete with fantastic roomies and my crazy kitties. Moving is like traveling for me. I hate the process but love the destination.

Adopt a Clitor- (what?)!

Adopt a clitoris!
*I donated to ClitorAid, a foundation that provides surgery for victims/survivors of FGM (female genital mutilation). I love my clitoris and even if I put it through the ringer with electricity, clamps, or whips I am a consenting professional. Women who have undergone a brutal excision of their clit, removal of their inner and outer labia, and total infinilation of their vagina need our help. If you love pussies, send them a few bucks.

*I am making final plans for my upcoming trip to Africa. Have I mentioned this? I will be crossing the globe to do HIV work. I am super excited and a little scared. Send bug spray my way!

Playing around with an iPhone in the office with my “Star Performer” trophy for Program of the Month

*I made a room of 150 people do condom demos on bananas. Condoms are a major part of my life and have been for a long time. I am a devout condom only performer, condom mandatory sex partner, and condom distributor.

In light of the recent HIV + status of an adult actress I think it is important to reiterate that everyone should have the knowledge and choice to wear condoms. Condom optional should not mean pressured to go raw. We can only change the system from within and that means showing our audiences that being protected is normal and hot.

So I got my little award for preaching the Gospel of Wrap-it-Up with my guerilla tactics. No one knew that they would be doing demos that day, but I hope they had fun. Practice makes perfect and the hardest part of putting on a condom can be telling your partner, producer, or co-star that you will be using one.

Seriously, wrap it up! Photo by Naked Comix (c) 2009.


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The Craigslist Killer

The media and the public are calling for the head of Craig Newmark, founder of Craigslist, because he refuses to remove the “erotic services” portion of his website despite the allegations that Phillip Markoff  used the website to locate victims for robbery and eventually murder. I’m surprised that everyone is being so conservative about this. Quite frankly, I want to know what type of car he drove and we need to get the manufacturer into court beside him. This is the vehicle that may have transported a killer so clearly they are culpable in the death of a young woman. They should have known that someone would utilize that technology for murder. While we’re at it, let’s just go ahead and blame Kink.Com as well because they produced the violent pornography that obviously inspired the murder.

I mourn the death of Julissa Brisman, 26 years old at the time of her murder, and I want to see the person responsible behind bars. That person is not Craig Newmark. The Erotic Services portion of his website was just as responsible for her death as the hotel where she was staying and that car that the killer drove. If Phillip Markoff is indeed the killer (and after looking at the mounting evidence I do believe he is) he is a man who took actions of his own volition and I’m absolutely nauseated by the fact that people want to point the finger at a website. 
I’m frustrated because it seems to stem from the fact that people don’t want to believe a young, attractive, intelligent man could do such a thing because he was fucked up in the head. On some level I understand the fear. Looking at photos of him at his white coat ceremony (a celebration of medical students entering the field) you don’t see something evil, you see someone you would have allowed to treat you at your most vulnerable state. I hate to break it to you, but murderers don’t always have a black horse and bad guy hats. This is a truly frightening thing to hold in your head because it means we can’t always identify the person that can cause such harm. We want to try to find the thing that made him tick and we want it to be something we already find repugnant. We want to blame angry music, violent video games, gambling, pornography, or advertisements for erotic services because they already stick out in our mind as wrong. It requires no paradigm shift to blame the usual suspects and it allows us to maintain a safe world view where everything is black, white, and safe.
I am grateful that Phillip Markoff is behind bars because my amateur studies of psychology and profiling give me the nagging feeling that he would have killed again. Unfortunately, sex workers take on more than their fair share of violence because not only are the entirely devalued by their killers they are also deemed worthless by many law enforcement agencies. The death of a hooker is no big story; it is, unfortunately, expected. A young man with his means and shell could have gone on killing for a long time. I’m also frightened by the prospect that we’re going to hear about more violence at his hands. 
Did Phillip Markoff develop a serious problem with gambling and found himself driven to rob sex workers? A lot of people in this country have gambling problems, the vast majority don’t violently kidnap sex workers to stay at the table. I’m getting a little sick of seeing that theory in the news as well. To grab someone, bind them, bash in their head, and then shoot them at point blank range three times means you have bigger problems than a maxed out credit card. A lot of people gamble and a troubling number of people right now are having some very stressful times with money. There is no reason that murdering someone should be an inevitable conclusion. 
Sex workers do take on a lot of violence in their field, more than their fair share. We have a culture that devalues sex and the lives of those who are professionals in the field so much that their lives have lost their meaning. If we want to stop these kind of killings we aren’t going to do it by taking down a website. We can do it creating a culture of change where we value sexuality in all of its forms and let go of this outdated notion that our desire is inherently evil. We live in an age with fiber optics and penicillin, we don’t have to maintain archaic notions about the human body. On top of that we have to confront the fact that sometimes the bad guy is the person we least want them to be. If porn, gambling, and erotic services were the source of murder then half of the country would be 6 feet under ground. 


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Spanking brings couples together

“Spanking brings couples together” says a brief study on the hormones that are released during a spanking.

Brad Sagarin at Northern Illinois University in DeKalb and colleagues measured
levels of the stress hormone cortisol in 13 men and women at an S&M party in
Arizona, before, during and after participating in activities. During S&M
scenes, cortisol rose significantly in those receiving stimulation, but dropped
back to normal within 40 minutes if the scene went well. There was no change in
those inflicting the activity.

At an S&M event in Colorado, testosterone was measured in 45 men and women. It increased significantly in receiving women only. Donatella Marazziti of the University of Pisa, Italy, says the boost may help women cope with the aggressive nature of S&M activities, or that it could be another sign of stress. In both studies, couples who said the party went well also reported increases in relationship closeness (Archives of Sexual Behavior,
DOI: 10.1007/s10508-008-9374-5).

It’s important to note that levels of both hormones dropped back down in couples who enjoyed the experience, Marazziti says. “When sexual intercourse is consensual it is not stressful – even if it is extreme sex.”

That’s a really small study to make a statement that any spanko could tell you. It takes trust to be in that situation on both sides, it involves a little communication, and it is time well spent on an intimate activity. It makes sense that it would be partner building.

I did think the rise in testosterone is interesting. I like their claim that it is to help process the ‘aggressive nature’ of S&M but it could also easily be the spike in sexual arousal or a combination of both.

In the nature of science, I advise everyone to go and test the merits of this study. All previous spankings must be disregarded as no one had the data in mind. All studies must be repeatable in order to have credibility and all possible factors must be considered. I have not been spanked in Arizona or Colorado, for instance, and maybe the location had an impact in this. The only way to know for certain is to have more spankings.

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